Which Lie Is Holding You Back

Which one of these lie are you believing?

The lie you tell yourself destroys your ability to make health habits.

Why do you lie to yourself?

 It makes you feel better, at some level, in some way.

1.  I would change, but I can’t because of X (time, economy, family, no family…)

Test your assumption.

This is not to shame you, but challenge you.

Is there anyone out there who also has time constraints, who also has kids at home, who also is an empty nester, who also is single, who also deals with pain, who also has X … and who has made the habit you are wanting to make?

Go look for role models.

2.  This time is different

The media depends on this lie to sell you what you don’t need.

“The last diet I tried didn’t work, but this time is different.  This one will.”

“This gym has all the new stuff.”

Just joining a new gym won’t make you go.

Just downloading the latest meditation app won’t create mindfulness.  (I know. I downloaded at least 3.)

Ask yourself “Why did the last one truly not work? Why is this time actually different?”

Two clients in the last few weeks shared their weight loss numbers with me.  (I don’t encourage clients to weigh, but when they do, it confirms what clothes were telling them.)

Both clients had wisely given up the “this diet is different” approach and started eating intuitively.  While the numbers (6 and 20 pounds) don’t have the shock value of diets, the clients are creating a lifestyle enjoyable to maintain.

3. This next lie is two sides of the same coin. I don’t have a clue what to do / I know exactly what I’m doing.

Telling yourself you don’t have a clue? Yes, you do.  It may not be comfortable.  You may want other things more.  You may not know every detail, but you are not helpless.

On the flipside

You really know exactly how to make this habit and what the result will be?  Your track record is not perfect.

Find resources.  

Hire a coach.  

You are unique.  Your priorities may do better with creative cooking or with once-a-week food prep.  Your personality may make a walk in the park more fun than a spin class.

A coach can help you figure out those details quickly, so you stop wasting time and resources.  

I am sending a Lie Detector worksheet to my email community to help you discover the lies you are believing and then overcome them.

Make sure you have joined.  Just email me at sheri@thevireolife.com and say “Lie Detector” and I will get it to you.